Please come to your senses http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0BwOXlGbW6Q
because you're driving me crazy.
Ever had a friend that was treating herself (yes herself) poorly by dating the same guy over and over and over and over even though he isn't great to her and she's not even that wonderful to him? bleck, how frustrating. So what do you do when this is YOUR friend? You don't want to sever your relationship between you and her, but she also needs to know she's being outrageous and ridiculous. Now, I'm not saying that your friend is just wondering if she likes him and trying to work it all out, I mean she's drama and he's even MORE drama. They break up, get back together, break up, get back together, cheat on each other, break up, get back together and then cheat again. It's toxic. It's nauseating, it's disgusting. THIS is not what relationships are for (just to HAVE). Relationships are supposed to make you happy, giggle, smile, laugh, dance when nobody is looking, and cry because you're so full of gratitude for your life and the people in it.
If this is you, or you have a friend in this type of toxic relationship, be honest with THEM or be honest with yourself. If you address this to your friend, then be kind when you do it and remind them that it's their life and you're not trying to tell them what to do, but instead the next time they are crying on your shoulder about the same ole same ole toxicity... you can bring up, maybe it would be hard to break up, but better in the long. Maybe tell her that she doesn't want to gain all her wrinkles too fast.
Try and hint to your friend, that she shouldn't be desperate for a relationship. It's not about being IN a relationship, about the person you're in it with.
Good luck. If you have a friend like this, maybe give her a link to The Rules Girl. She can turn over a new leaf, like a lot of us have.
XOXO
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love love love this. unhealthy relationships are NO good. thanks, rules girl. you are my hero.
ReplyDeleteSo true!! Wish I'd had a friend tell me this about 6 years ago when I was wasting YEARS with a guy who was a chauvinistic jerk; emotionally abusive, jealous, manipulative, the whole bit.
ReplyDeleteWhy did I do it? I HAVE NO IDEA! But you mentioned having a relationship just to HAVE a relationship... and that sadly seems to be hitting the nail on the head. It smarts, but I now think that may have been it. Hindsight, oi.
I hope that a lot of girls read your post and save themselves the frustration, wasted time, and yes, the wrinkles. :)
My dating story ended VERY happily with a wonderful man, but I don't think that is usually the case, and my heart aches for those less lucky.
That's just a little irritating, you know. I can't stand that one. Tsk3. :|
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