Thursday, March 10, 2011

That thing you do

Do you have one of those characteristics you can tell someone close to you doesn't like about you? Or an interest that they just don't care about, and they even SHOW you non-verbally they don't want to listen or be involved with it.

Of course you do, we all do. I like to call it, "that thing you do"... yep, like the movie.


Does it ever frustrate you that the person you are close with doesn't like a huge part of who you are? Yea, it makes sense.

But instead of stewing over how they don't get you, or how you wish they liked that 'thing' about you, or the things you like - find someone else that actually likes 'that thing you do.' you can't MAKE people like what you like, or like you, but you can change the people? Now, I'm not saying getting a new love, best friend, or even mother because they don't like something about you, I'm trying to illustrate that if your lover, dad, or bff doesn't want to talk about Gossip Girl, contemporary art, or the weather... find another friend that does, to fill that void. AND so you don't feel sorry for yourself that they don't like something about you, or that you like.

What I'm saying is, find someone who is ok with 'that thing you do,' maybe even thinks it's cute, or fun!Most of the time 'that thing you do,' that characteristic or interest you have, isn't necessarily a BAD thing, it's just not THEIR thing. (please be sure to evaluate whether it is a negative quality, or just not their thing before continuing this process)...

This is important to do while searching for a future love. (not that you're searching, more like weeding out)... Because you need to make sure that the big parts of you are either appreciated or listened to, or at least not non-verbally or verbally discarded, ignored, or considered unimportant or too much for them to handle. You don't want to feel like you can't be you.

And everyone has those things they do.

XOXO

Rules Girl

1 Comments:

Blogger Steve said...

Who would be the person to ask if I have "that thing you do" trait? I have no clue if I have one.

January 31, 2012 at 6:19:00 PM PST  

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