Monday, September 27, 2010

May the force NOT be with you

We've all done it. Some of us have even completely embarrassed ourselves in the process. You can't force a relationship. You can't force it in any phase. For example...Maybe you like him, and he doesn't like you. You can't force it. You can't make him like you or want you back. Or...Maybe you want the relationship to go to the next level, but you can't force it or it might be too fast and you scare them away. And then ....Maybe you don't like THEM back, but you want to so bad. No matter what relationship phase or position you are in, you just can't force it.
In this situation, I urge you to NOT have the force be with you.
(for all those intergalactic junkies, I know we want the force, and I'm not saying you should go all sith, just take a chill for a sec)
Sometimes you're lucky and get successful in forcing it to a certain point, but even then you realize it didn't really get you what you wanted, and that now you're far beyond saving face. You're embarrassed, and realize that you just can't force it, because forcing doesn't work. You can't force yourself, and you especially can't force them into wanting something. It usually it ends up with you being embarrassed and feeling stupid for putting yourself so far out there, and them seeing you as completely ridiculous, needy, or incapable of being alone. Save yourself the face, and the heartache... and don't force it. Go with the flow, and if that means healing... then heal. if that means waiting to see what happens, then wait. Be patient, let them take the reigns on this one. If that means dropping it, then drop it. You've done what you can do, you've forced all you can force, go. Now, it's their turn.

Rules Girl


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