Ever been "that girl?" The one you swore you'd never be? The girl who is WAYyyyyyyyyyy too much or tries Wayyyyyyyyy too hard to be someone she is not for a guy? OR "that girl" who kisses and tells. OR "that girl" who has a variety of other attributes or behaviors that you said you'd never be? Welp. Sometimes we ARE that girl. It happens. SO... what do you do about?
After recognizing you've been someone or something you're not... how do you change it?
Welp. The first step is recognizing it and making a conscious effort to be yourself or be who you want to be. The second step is you have to truly decide that's what you want to do. You don't want to try too hard, or be too talkative, too shy, or aggressive... so you make the decision not to be. And you aren't. When you catch yourself doing it, you stop. The third step... is RELAXING. Be you. Stop forcing conversation and just chatting about the things that come to mind without calculating if they're worth mentioning.
Be you. We have all been "that girl" whoever she is to you...
but you don't HAVE to be.