Rules Girls are not Judge Judy's...
I used to judge "those girls" from the outside and question them or their relationships... but you never know what is really going on and who are you? who am I? Why do I matter? Why should I share my unwanted opinion? To make myself feel better? No, not anymore. Because when you find out your pals are judge-judying you... those relationships are hard to men. Sometimes it even makes you a negative Nancy, but it's not worth getting too down and out about because it's out of your control. So shake it off, say your sorry and get back to being a super stylish Suzy, gratitude Gertrude, or happy Holly... be any alliteration with a positive connotation. We all mess up, some of us more than others. We all don't always have it together, know what we want, or know how to handle situations. But we're all trying and we're all learning.
So next time you're looking form the outside-in. Ask yourself, what would I do in that situation? And be honest with yourself. It will take you about 10 seconds to decide you're not even going to THINK about what a mess you'd be, and that you're no judge Judy... then you'll change the subject and save a friendship.