Friday, April 30, 2010

It's a good thing to be homely...

So when I studied abroad our director would tell us that the less attractive we were, the better. He always told us it was better to be homely...safer. "There is always someone who thinks you're attractive, so why try to look like everyone else when you're safer being more homely."
I didn't really understand the reality of what he was suggesting until 5 years later.
I was walking in a parking lot, in a not-so-safe part of town, and this man (late 40's, disheveled looking, pretty worn out clothing) was somewhat charging toward me. I looked at him strange and thought to myself, "what will I do if he attacks me because this backpack I'm carrying is larger than life"... and then he was close enough to see me well and said, "Oh. (hand wave of dismissal toward me). You're not worth it. You don't even turn me on". He stomped away mad... sorry I'm homely dude, but then again no I'm really really not.

Lesson learned = It's ok to not be the prettiest girl in town. I'd rather not be rapped, mugged, or even asked for my number by the crazy-scary guy in the parking lot.

I mean Rules Girl


Blogger !zzy said...

I'm glad you made it out of that situation safely!

May 2, 2010 at 8:20:00 PM PDT  
Blogger Mary said...

FYI: Sexual assault is an act of violence. Sexual assault is not a crime of sexual passion. It is a violent attack on an individual using sex as a weapon. Sex is used to humiliate, ddestroy a victim’s will and control over his or her own body. Rape is not a sexual act. It is an act of power and control. No victim asks for it and anyone can be a victim, regardless of age, appearance, or sex. The way people look, act, or dress does not invite sexual assault. If anything, victims are selected because they appear accessible. Hope this help.s

May 4, 2010 at 9:19:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous The Rules Girl said...

Yea... sorry to get everyone razzed... it was not literal, kinda of just a joke... but uhhhh yea.

For future reference, when I say "be homely because then you won't get raped"... I'm not being literal.


May 5, 2010 at 11:43:00 AM PDT  
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May 5, 2010 at 5:01:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Stop deleting comments, I fail to see all the razziness. I want to see it.

May 9, 2010 at 9:30:00 PM PDT  
Anonymous The Rules Girl said...

Just for the record people are deleting their own comments... I'm all about free speech on this blog ;)

May 9, 2010 at 9:59:00 PM PDT  

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