Saturday, March 20, 2010

To all the fella's out there...

Two Words:

Man Up.


Rules Girl

Thursday, March 18, 2010

It's just a date... he's not proposing, so relax (RULE # 567)

It's just a date. He's not proposing. Center
This goes both ways. Just because you're dating someone, that doesn't mean you're going to marry them! So don't get too crazy about going on mere dates with them. HOWEVER, it's not really fair if you don't see yourself EVER having a future with them. So at least figure yourself out to some point. That is what dating is ya know, to figure it all out. So go, date, and relax.

Rules Girl

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Do the "Rules" keep you from being yourself?

Do the Rules keep a girl from being herself?
With-holding from texting someone too much, being too eager for a date/marriage, or not crazy-stalking a guy does not keep a girl from being herself (unless the girl is crazy- in that case be our guest). It's actually just a control of behavior and mindset. Also... we are not changing who we are, but how we react, respond and what we do in situations, that will actually make us better. Your personality and overall character are still the same... you just aren't going to be seen as over-eager in your dating endeavors and so forth.
We change behavior all time. It's the same concept as...
1. Using a tissue instead of your arm when you sneeze. 2. Not picking your zits in public 3. Shaving your armpits 4. Listening instead of doing all the talking in a conversation 5. Telling people nice things and not all the awful things about them and so forth...
These are all examples of social constructions that whether we like it or not, exist. As such, they make our relationships and even our image much better. It's for our own benefit. These are all things that don't really establish who we are, they are just behaviors that assist us in our overall interactions. You want the guy to see who you are, a beautiful, confident, awesome girl... not the girl who's so over eager, self-conscious, needy, and clingy. Abiding these social constructions can actually help you, and the Rules Girl mindset can help you as well.
Now remember with all of this, the Rules we discuss on this blog are not written in stone, but are of the overall mindset that a guy will ask you out, will call you, or will talk to you... if he likes you.
Be YOU...
(which can still consist of you not texting him all day while never receiving responses)

Rules Girl

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

STOP feeling "sorry" for me because i'm single...

Because I'm not sorry... so you REALLY shouldn't be either... really... no no really... you shouldn't feel sorry for me.

Welp, first of all I'm not just going to marry the next guy that walks up.
Secondly, it's not because I'm picky. Just because YOU think I'm picky doesn't mean that I am. Giving X, Y, and Z all a chance and it's just not working out... WHY? Because that's just the way life is.
Oh and Last of all... no I'm not TOO ambitious... no I'm NOT too good or too busy for them.
Now that we've cleared all that up. Do you feel better? Need a tissue, cuz I know I'm more than fine... I'm great.
So please stop feeling sorry for something that isn't your business and that you might not even understand. Just sayin'. I'm pretty happy with it all, and I know what's supposed to happen will, so please leave me be. hearts.
One may be the loneliest number, but it sure is better than being with the WRONG one... I hope that's ok with you because oh yea, it's my life.
Go be confident and love yourself. For whether you do now or later... a man will never create such things you, that's your job.

Rules Girl

Stop being the crazy friend

I think we've all had girlfriends that become crazy once we're dating somone. This is the opposite of what a Rules Girl would do if her friend started dating someone. Before the words, "you've changed" come out of your mouth take a second to think to yourself about the following:

- It's more important that I love her, than tell her she's being crazy right now.
-Your relationship with her, is different than her relationship with him. That'd be gross if it wasn't, so of course she's a little different.
- Of course she's spending less time with you and is a little spacey, she's got a lot going on... she's trying to balance YOU, HIM, and LIFE. Cut her some slack.

Sometimes you just need to listen and be understanding...
- You're her friend... so support her. If you think she's changing to the extreme (so much she's wacky wacky) then you either need to address it REALLY nicely, or you need to leave it be and let her figure it all out for herself. Usually the latter is the better way to go. You know she won't do something TOO stupid... because she's smart (ok she might but still). Just let her figure it out. Sometimes you need to filter what you think (I struggle with it too) to spare her feelings and your relationship. But also don't lie to her. If she asks you your opinion of the dude or if she's being weird, tell her... NICELY.
- Lastly, remember that sometimes it's all just in your head. You have a jealousy issue you need to deal with. Get over it.
So don't be crazy, be a good friend. HAVE FUN with her in the allotted time you DO have...
That's what a Rules Girl would do!
Rules Girl