Saturday, January 16, 2010

Rule # 6,588: See him in all forms

When dating, it is pertinent that you see your lover in all forms before becoming some level of serious. My mom used to say, "before you decide anything, go shopping with him". She's a wise woman. I mean think about it.

Is this not a clear indicator of some important relational virtues? Patience for instance? How much money he's willing to spend on you (baha jk), how he gives compliments, how he whines... the list goes on and on... and on.
Another form in which you must see your man... is in a bad mood and angry...This is the least fun. You have to witness how they handle things, but even more scary... you should see how they are when mad at YOU, and one step further... how you FIGHT. yikes.
Third, you must travel with him. People are totally different on trips. Do they like to be in charge? Do they like to organize it all, or is that your thing? Do they like to go on vacations that are beachy or site-see-ey? Do they like to sleep in and you like to get up and get an early start?

Last and most importantly - your man must see you when you have a cold, and you must see how he handles it. Ya know, all snot-faced... tissues everywhere, eyes watering. No matter how hard you try, you just dont' have the energy to be cute. How did he treat you?


See them in all forms,

XOXO
Rules Girl

there are many many more forms of course... these are just a few. More could be: at the gym, around people you don't like, with kids, etc etc etc. What do you think?

3 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

It's really good if you can see how he is when he is around people you know but he doesn't know. Is he shy or bold? Does he say embarrassing things just to get noticed? Also, it's good to see him in a stressful situation or make a decision about a stressful situation. Does he just clam up and not talk about it or is he open for suggestions? When choosing a mate you need to keep in mind that YOU CAN'T change how SOMEONE ELSE reacts in all of these situations, so don't try to. You DO need to be realistic though and understand what your tolerance level is and then ask yourself, "Can I live how he acts in ______ (insert situation) forever?"

January 16, 2010 at 4:19:00 PM PST  
Blogger Diana said...

You are so bang on. I believe I did all those forms with Gray and everyday I am still baffled at what he says or does. But I have a little more patience since I have seen him in so many ways. The only thing that still throws me for a loop is how "shy" he is at church and school. He is a non stop teaser and tormentor when we are alone or at home but the perfect little angel everywhere else...no one sees my suffering. Bahaa I love your posts!

January 18, 2010 at 12:44:00 PM PST  
Anonymous The Rules Girl said...

and I love YOURS ;)

January 19, 2010 at 12:15:00 AM PST  

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