Wednesday, August 19, 2009

Neglect

My apologies for neglecting you. More to come...

XOXO
Rules Girl

Rules Girls don't DO Controll-ers


uh what the heck.

He's starting to try in change you in little ways, tell you he doesn't like it when you talk to certain people, do certain things....
this is one of those red flags of an OVERLY and dangerously controlling male.
If you find yourself in this situation over and over about certain weird things... think about it. It's not always a red flag of the controll-er, but it certainly can be.
Even if you like him... it's better to be Be yourself , than to find yourself devastated about what happens with the controll-er in the in the future...

XOXO
Rules Girl

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Julie & Julia Inspired

I went and saw Julie & Julia and came out surprisingly inspired. I don't cook, but I sure would like to learn all how to chop off a fish head and poach an egg. Not only that but supportive significant others were crucial to the movies inspiration.

So therefore...

Rules Girls are all about being inspired and supported about it.


Rules Girls love do things that make them feel real great and want to be better and do more fun and wonderful things. Rules Girls don't pine the loss of anything in their life, nor do they get bored because they get out and go go go!

The act of being idle is the Rules Girls worst enemy. Why? Because that makes you lose your confidence, you're treasured self-esteem and will most likely make you GAIN some of those dreaded lbs. So get out and get inspired, or just get off the couch. It'll help the pain go away or that looming self-absorption.

Oh, and if you have a fellow who isn't supportive of any of your awe-some ideas... yeah....

Rules Girls get inspired and only date/marry the supportive ones.

XOXO
Rules Girl

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Monday, August 10, 2009

RULE #234 No Floozy-ing


Rules Girls actually LIKE the guy they're smooching...
Rules Girls aren't floozies.
Rules Girls don't kiss guys they don't like because they're well aware it's a waste of the poor chaps time and their estrogneized emotional energy. Uh girl, yea right... kissing leads to emotion for a female, so don't try and convince yourself you like him by kissing him OR that you can kiss him and not have some sort of emotion spur up in one direction or another. We all know the truth. Really we do.

Now this doesn't mean you have to be in love with the guy to kiss him, or even officially dating him. The kiss usually comes before the official-ity so don't get too square.

Be true to who you are and what you want.
hold off if you know this isn't it, even though those hormones are ragin'.
Why? Because it'll be worth it to be true to who you are and what you want.
Only floozy boys like floozy girls...
No Floozies allowed in the Rules Girl club. (Although converts are always welcome)

XOXO
Rules Girl

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Wednesday, August 5, 2009

I practiced what I preach

So, it's always nice to know how someone feels about you.

Waiting for them to call YOU, is definitely an indication of their feelings.

I recently practiced what I preach and I cannot say it enough.
LET THEM CALL YOU.
It's very educational.

XOXO
Rules Girl

Monday, August 3, 2009

Rules girls don't overreact to a sting

Once the relationship gets to a certain point, certain topics come up. Something is bothering him and he needs to tell you. Don't make him regret it by having an absurd reaction.
If your beau wants to talk and he brings something up that may give you a little sting... try your best not to be hurt. If his delivery was horrifying then let him know, while asking him what he was really trying to say.
Keep in Mind
There is a difference between changing someone and bringing up a topic of how things can be better in the relationship. Maybe it's that they want you to open up, maybe it's that they want you to be a better listener or to give them more support.

If you are the deliverER, then you need to make sure you don't bring up the topic and deliver it in a hurtful way. "Choose Wisely" when it comes to the words, tone and setting you use. And most importantly reassure them that you like them a whole whole lot ;) Remember to distinguish between 'this is who they are' and 'this is something that holds back the relationship'.

Honestly, it'd be nice to have someone tell me what I need to improve on. I'm sure many of my readers are aware of my faults, but it isn't everyday you have someone be straight up with you about how you can improve.

Be Willing to Change
Some relationships struggle because the other person isn't willing to change. You don't have to change who you are to improve. If both of you understand the difference here, then it should only take about 48 hours for the sting to wear off and for you to recognize that maybe it is an area you can improve.

XOXO
Rules Girl