You've got the wrong idea about me

No no no...
A Rules Girl doesn't live through Rom-Com quixotic ideals.
I don't slap guys
I KNOW guys don't read minds
and I especially don't expect a guy to be anything near perfect.

The Rules aren't a life of ridiculous standards and romantic ideals. (Oh, and we don't actually live by rules, we just use the wordage to make it more fun). We just recognize that if a guy wants us, he'll come and get us, so we keep ourselves in check accordingly. We'll give him a little encouragement, but if he likes us, we know he'll do his thang... This blog is just a reminder of what all girls often forget... (you fill in the blank).

Rules Girls also don't sit around waiting for life and especially men to come to them. We live and let relationships improve our situation, not dictate it.

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XOXO
The Rules Girl

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Saturday, December 5, 2009

No News... is Bad News

Welp.
If you aren't hearing from them = no news is probably bad news.
Not to depress you or anything, but really......... and don't give in! Don't be the one to contact him. You want someone that wants YOU! If he isn't contacting you, he's probably not interested. If you're going through the weird sporadic-contact situation, then I would almost take it one more step and say that some news, but not a whole lot is probably not great news either. Yea, he could be busy, and you're busy too... but if he really likes you, the contact will not wane too much.
No News is Bad News by Dashboard Confessional

I'm not saying you should be seeing each other or even calling/texting/chatting everyday... I'm just saying that no news is probably bad news.
It sucks to have another one bite the dust, I get it. But take it like a ... woMan you got this.

XOXO
Rules Girl

oh and ps. of course there is an exception to every rule... but Rules Girls are not desperately trying to claim to be the exception
why? because we don't DO desperate.

3 comments:

bren & joe said...

so true, girl. it took me a LONG time to learn this unfortunately. you know the whole, "but what if he thinks I don't like HIM? i better make sure he knows." every girl who thinks this needs to get a clue as well as a copy of "He's Just Not That Into You". owning the hard truth is the first step to a refreshingly GOOD relationship with a guy who actually wants you. if YOU get in the habit of making the moves even if it's to avoid being alone, it may work -- you may be alone less, but you will find yourself being the back burner girl. don't do it, ladies, because the guy that does want you won't make you wait around and he CERTAINLY doesn't make YOU text him. wish i would have learned that a long time ago.

Anonymous said...

I can not say that I stick to the rules all the time...but I learned my lesson
there is no excuse to contact a guy...really there isn't
even if you want to tell him that he has lost every single chance...just don't contact him and he knows or he doesn't care
there is this story about my exboyfriend who used to call MY friends to tell them how much he miss me and that he'd like to date me again. So I called him and he really asked for a date...but he didn't show up till today because HE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO ME

Rules Girl said...

Love the comments! Thanks!!!

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