MALE RESPONSE to "how to respond to mediochre dates?"
In response to your post on "how to respond to mediocre dates":
From a guy's perspective, it's much better to be straight-forward with him. I compare it to ripping off a band-aid: if you do it quick and get it over with, it stings a little but for less time. If you let it drag out, then when you're finally forced to tell him with clarity, the sting will be worse, will last longer, and will be compounded by the fact that you could not be straight-forward him and wasted his time. If this is someone you will have to see again, the awkwardness will be less prolonged if you are clear and up front with him than if you let it drag out.
For a guy to ask a girl out often takes a lot of effort. It's not an easy thing. So, if you expect guys to ask you out, to be clear that they are asking you out (instead of just asking you to hang out when what they really mean is a date), or be clear with you when they like you (instead of just hoping you'll take a hint), then you need to be willing to put the breaks on and say "no" if that is what you mean. That's fair.
I really have to appreciate my sisters always told those guys to not waste their time and money (my younger sister ended up marrying one of those guys, but that's beside the point). There's no need to be mean or nasty, but PLEASE clearly say what you mean.
-- I've been that guy