Monday, June 22, 2009

It's Normal to feel like this - but just remember: Fall 7 times, Stand up 8

You found out he's already dating someone knew.
You found out he got back together with an ex.
You found out he's engaged.
You feel a little claustrophobic, some kind of weird anxiety, some heart break and a major kind of funk.

It's doesn't mean you want him back, or even that you still have feelings for him... it's just some kind of reminder of what was, what's changed...and maybe even sometimes, the reality of what's happening now.
Just because we're Rules Girls, doesn't mean we don't feel.
Although feeling is ultimately our own choice, it's not always an easy and instantaneous choice to make. Sometimes we think we have our feelings under control and then we surprise ourselves by exerting pain or emotion in some way we didn't even realize.
Sometimes we think we're using our heads, when really our emotions are ruling us because we didn't listen to them in the first place.
So my Rules Girls Advice on this one...
Instead of bottling up the emotion and lashing out, recognize the feeling and that it matters. THEN control and move on. Don't forget to feel entirely.
It's ok to feel the funk - you'll snap out of it.

It's like my fortune cookie ironically told me today, "Fall 7 times, stand up 8".

Rules Girl


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