Monday, January 12, 2009

Go ahead... think I'm wrong. BUT I'm the logical one from the outside... you're the emotional one, remember?

Let's get logical, I mean that IS what I'm here for. I'm the logic that is BLINDED and SMOTHERED by your female emotions. I've done it. I've been there, so don't try and rationalize that I wouldn't understand. I had that guy who left and kept popping back in. Who wanted it, but not enough...

"Don't be flattered that he misses you. He should miss you. You're deeply missable. However, he's still the same person who just broke up with you. Remember, the only reason he can miss you is because he's choosing, every day, not to be with you." - exerpt from the book,
He's just not that into you by Greg Berhendt and Liz Tuccillo.

Get Logical.

I used to think that after a serious relationship you could still be friends. But now? Now I yell, "RUN!". RUN FAR AND FAST and don't look back until you're strong enough. We're emotional, duh, so this is where the brain takes control (hard to do). You cannot have his presence in your life everyday and expect yourself to be ok and move on. You'll be stuck for months, and even years. If you EVER want to mend... sprint. (this includes facebook or myspace stalking)

There are always maybes but for this Rules Girl, the maybes just don't cut it. I want a REAL man. A man who wants me, not one who needed years of time and convincing to have me. Live your life, move on and then if he ends up on your doorstep in his right mind then you can A. realize you'd rather have someone else anyway or B. be pleasantly surprised.

Of course this all depends on how it ended and how long or serious the relationship was. If it was a REALLY clean and early split, friends can be super easy, but if not... beware of self inflicted pain.

I know some of you won't take this advice... but oh how I wish you would.

Rules Girl

stay tuned for more on "how to move on and how to fill the void"


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